Self-Care With Shaki

  Nobody gets everything they want. Even the richest person on the planet has something that he wants but doesn't have. Needs and wants might not always be things and money. It may be a person, health or time. There are endless wants that humans crave for. We badly want a thing, we sacrifice everything to get that but once we have it in our hands, the value of that thing decreases and our mind starts thinking about the next thing to buy. It is a cycle - an endless cycle of wants and needs. Nothing can satisfy a human who is bound to the wants and needs of the world/society.   Most of us get upset over not having what we want. People get upset over not having the latest model of the iPhone, not having the Mercedes, not able to buy that expensive jewelry or not having sufficient money for that PS4. I have seen people going into depression and behaving in an aggressive manner for not having the things they want. And moreover, they want it as soon as they think that they wa...

In this modern world of technology, there are a thousand things that can shift our focus. Social media and news are always keeping us distracted. We cannot complete any task completely if our focus is not on it. When our thoughts go on roller coaster ride every minute, the task we are doing slides down from our focus and becomes a stressor. Fortunately, there are ways that help you get less distracted and more focused. 1. Organization improves focus       Learn to be organized in whatever you do. An environmental organization is a must if you need to focus on your task solely. Eliminate all the things that do not matter to your task from the table. Only keep the notes or documents you need on your desk. Always keep the needful things with you before starting any tasks. Avoid wandering about and searching for something that you need between the tasks.       Always prepare a to-do list at the beginning of the day. Choose what you ar...

It is really stressing, if you are always on confusion if your partner is cheating or not. When your relationship is becoming a mess or if you are the only one who is trying to keep the threads in place, you would be really frustrated to continue in an unhealthy relationship. There are many ways where you can say if your partner is cheating on you or not, I have formulated the common signs of a partner who is cheating on you below. 1. The usage of phone/computer shots up       A person who is cheating will be always glued to his/her phone. They will carry their phone wherever they go and always give you zero chances to even glance at it. If your partner's phone did not require a password before but now if it is locked with a password, it is a good sign that your partner is cheating on you. Also, if your partner carries his/her phone away from you to attend a call then it would require a serious eye. 2. No emotional bondage  ...

Gaming is one thing and game addiction Is the other. We cannot say that everyone who plays the game is addicted. There are some symptoms of game addiction. Thinking about gaming all or a lot of the time Feeling bad when you can’t play Needing to spend more and more time playing to feel good Not being able to quit or even play less Not wanting to do other things that you used to like Having problems at work, school, or home because of your gaming Playing despite these problems Lying to people close to you about how much time you spend playing Using gaming to ease bad moods  and feelings These are some symptoms of game addiction.   Serious gamers spend almost 16 to 18 hours/day playing games.   Game addiction can cause a serious threat to the future. It may reflect in the grades of school and college-going kids.   It might also cost the health and relationship of those who are addicted. Serious gaming will cre...

  For any form of success, you need consistency. Consistency is the key to achieve what you desire. But, we all know that it is hard to be consistent. Sometimes we feel like giving up, we get engrossed in our short term needs and forget about our long term goals. As said earlier, being consistent is hard but it is not impossible. Below are some of the tips that can help you be consistent with some kind of ease and motivation. 1. Clarity towards your goals    You have to set some realistic goals with clarity in it. You can't vaguely set goals like "Working hard is my goal" or "I want to lose weight". These are plain goals with no form for it. You have to mention what you are going to work hard? Are you planning to put in extra hours of work? Or are you going to develop your skillset? Or are you making a passive income? You have to have a specific measurable goal.    Let me give you a clear example, I have set a goal to lose weight and I start goi...

Do you sometimes wonder seeing couples who are happily married for years and stay the same always? I do. I think "How in the world, two people can be married like 50 years together?", "Won't they fight?", "Won't they have disagreements?". I always wonder about how relationships last. I was having a fixed minded outlook towards relationship until I came across how to be a growth-minded individual in a relationship to make it last longer. I also came to the conclusion that no matter how many differences couples have, the love - if it is real, it is worth all the imperfections and effort. Below are some of the tips I got from healthy long-lasting couples to live a beautiful life together 1. Communicate      Lack of communication is the number one reason why relationships don't last. You have to communicate what and how you feel to your partner. Or else, nothing would change. No one can read your mind and understand what is going t...

Freedom is a powerful word which has millions of perspective. In this blog, I am not going to give any tips or advice to follow to achieve freedom. I am just going to vent my heart out of what freedom means to me. And, I also feel that this is the most important topic to talk out. Since we are all working, striving, running nonstop towards our goals just to attain freedom in every aspect. For some people freedom means being financially independent, for some, it means free from toxic relationships or free from societies standards or to move even higher, freedom can be just freeing yourself from your own ego. India is a democratic nation that is free of enslavement. It means that we have the freedom of speech, the right to question, we have the choice to choose what we wear, what we speak and what we do. Yes, we are free from the British. We are no longer the slaves of the white men. At the time, when we were under the oppression of British rule, Freedom meant Indians ruling Ind...

    Our memory is a skill, just like any other skill it needs the practice to improvise. By practicing the below-mentioned skills/activities you can improve your memory and will be able to remember things in a better way. 1. Repeat what you learn The more you repeat what you learn the more chances that you will remember it. Repetition reinforces the connections we create between neurons. Suppose you wanted to memorize a speech, just reading it will not make sure that you remember it. You have to repeatedly read it and write it down.  But the work doesn’t stop there. Research shows that simple repetition is an ineffective learning tool if used on its own. You’ll need to sit back down later and actively try to retrieve the information without looking at where you wrote it down. Testing yourself to retrieve the information is better than repeated studying. Practicing retrieval creates more long-term and meaningful learning experiences   2. Vi...

“No matter how busy you may think you are, you must find time for reading, or surrender yourself to self-chosen ignorance.” – Confucius Reading is an unignorable habit every one of us should develop. There are so many profound benefits to reading . Especially, reading before bedtime can yield a lot of benefits to your health. Here are five benefits you get by reading before bedtime. 1. Help combat Insomnia      Reading a   book before you go to bed could help combat insomnia. A 2009 study from researchers at the University of Sussex showed that six minutes of reading reduces stress by 68% (more relaxing than either music or a cup of tea), thus clearing the mind and readying the body for sleep. Going to bed with all the stress in your head would be really frustrating. Reading is like stretching the muscles of your brain to relax a bit, so that you could sleep better. 2. Reduce the risks of Alzheimer's      Reading can reduc...

The law of attraction is not something that works or doesn't work. It is always there and it is always working. All we do is tune ourselves so that we can make it work the way we want. It is not a technique or a concept created by someone. It is the law of nature. Whether you believe it or not, the law of attraction is in work 24/7, 365 days. What we focus on expands, and by focusing more on what we want, rather than what we don’t, we will experience more of the former and less of the latter. No one is perfect at this, so no matter what, you may still experience things you don’t like from time to time... just had to throw that in there. The Law of Attraction has been a boon to my life. I have benefited and learned a lot from using the LOA to reap whatever I want. That is why I am so passionate about teaching people and the world about LOA and how simple life can become once you know how to use it right. But, whenever I teach someone LOA they always come back sayin...