Self-Care With Shaki

Do you ever feel like you got nothing out of school or college? You might have taken various levels of examination and invested hours of learning but still do you think that much of what you learned was not useful in actual situations? Research confirms the fact that much of what we study does not actually transfer to the situations we need it. In one study, Psychologist Howard Gardner says that “students who receive honor grades in college-level physics courses are frequently unable to solve basic problems and questions encountered in a form slightly different from that on which they have been formally instructed and tested.” All these facts confirm that we get very little out of school or college academics. Why is that we are not able to build a skill out of what we study in schools and colleges for numerous years? Should we blame the structure of our schools and colleges? Maybe yes or maybe not.   But also our own learning efforts play a greater role in ...

All of us dream about having an ideal life surrounded by people and things we love. Some of us might love our present life while some desperately want it to change. In my experience, the vast majority of people are not satisfied with their current life. People want things to change. They want relationships to be rosy, money to be abundant, and life to be joyful. There is no harm in fantasizing to live a better life. But, the thing is your ideal life will remain a mere fantasy if you only keep dreaming without putting any action.  These 7 tips will act as a nudge to push you to actually LIVE your dream life. After all, it is one life and one chance! 1. Realization Realization is the key to any change. Just pause for a moment and ask yourself "Am I happy with this life?", " Do I love the job I do?", "Do I love the relationship I am in?". Be honest with yourself while answering these questions.  If something is not to your likely then please consider ...

There will always be some undone work which keeps bothering our mind. Mostly we procrastinate unconsciously. We know that it is important to get things done, but we keep on postponing it without a strong reason. We don’t do things because we don’t feel like doing, it means we are just lazy. Our unconscious mind controls most of our life. It also has a grip on what we procrastinate on. As we already know our unconscious mind is lazy and it always finds short ways to get things done. It also likes postponing things just to feel relaxed in the short term. So, how do we bring conscious attention to our procrastination and get things done easily? 1. Why? To get a solution to any problem you must know what the problem is. So, you should first understand why you are procrastinating. Are you procrastinating because you are lazy? Are you procrastinating because you are afraid to do something? are you procrastinating because of your lack of belief? Or Are you procras...

Commitment is a crucial need for succeeding in the long term. Recall a time when you succeeded in something. How much were you committed to that goal? Rate your commitment from a scale of 1 - 10. I am sure that your commitment level would have been more than 8. In every aspect of your life, commitment plays a great role. You need a commitment to a relationship to live a happy life with your partner. You require a commitment to your work, to reach higher goals. You need a commitment to your personal development to elevate the level of life you live. To succeed in anything, there are three prerequisites. Goal Action Commitment   A goal will give you direction and will put you on the right path. Taking action will increase your probability to achieve your goal. Taking action will also infuse motivation into you. Commitment will help you keep going in spite of all the setbacks and failures. It will help you reach the ultimate goal. Having a goal and...

Perfectionists are the people who beat up themselves to achieve higher. It is hard to be aa perfectionist. If you recognize yourself as a perfectionist, you may know how difficult your life is. Perfectionist consider themselves as high achievers. But, according to psychology that is not the case. Perfectionist and high achievers differ in so many ways. High achievers always aim for excellence and they also learn from their mistakes. Whereas, on the other hand, perfectionists aim for perfection in everything they do. Mostly, Perfectionists aim for accuracy in the work they do. They tend to sacrifice their health and relationships to maintain perfectionism in their work. They also overdo the work they have. To be frank, the world is in entropy. Nothing in this world is perfect and stable. Look around you and see how many things are imperfect. I am sure that you will find at least a dozen things that are imperfect. If you search for perfectionism you will always find ...

Goal setting has given a new perspective on my life. I used to be someone who had no goal or purpose in life. I just followed the herd. I did not know what my interest where. What am I good at doing or anything. I could have won the first place in lazy ass competition, you see :p My life was directionless and vague. It was boring. But once, I got hold of what and how goal-setting works. My life turned out to be better. It is really important to have a goal in life - professional or personal. You have to plan your life. You should direct your life the way you want it. By just setting some valid goals and working on it, you can really align your life to greater success and prosperity. 1.  Goals give you direction Without goals, life is just a series of incidents. You just flow with life like a log floating on the river. The piece of wood flows and changes its direction according to the current of the river. It goes where the river takes, ...

Do you know what you want in 5 years of time? Do you know where you will be in the next 10 years? You just can't tell you will be a millionaire within the next five years while having no concrete plan. The daily habits you build and the goals you achieve today will count to your success in the next 5 to 10 years. To achieve any form of success, you need goal setting. An effectively organized goal will take you where you want to go. Without a goal, you will not have focus and direction in your life. To accomplish your goals, however, you need to know how to set them. You can't simply say, "I want" and expect it to happen. Goal setting is a process that starts with careful consideration of what you want to achieve and ends with a lot of hard work to actually do it. In between, there are some very well-defined steps that transcend the specifics of each goal. Knowing these steps will allow you to formulate goals that you can accomplish. 1. Your goal...