Nobody gets
everything they want. Even the richest person on the planet has something that
he wants but doesn't have. Needs and wants might not always be things and
money. It may be a person, health or time. There are endless wants that humans
crave for. We badly want a thing, we sacrifice everything to get that but once
we have it in our hands, the value of that thing decreases and our mind
starts thinking about the next thing to buy. It is a cycle - an endless cycle of
wants and needs. Nothing can satisfy a human who is bound to the wants and
needs of the world/society.
Most of us get upset
over not having what we want. People get upset over not having the latest model
of the iPhone, not having the Mercedes, not able to buy that expensive
jewelry or not having sufficient money
for that PS4. I have seen people going into depression and behaving in an
aggressive manner for not having the things they want. And moreover, they want
it as soon as they think that they want it. Even I was the same before years. I
was pampered a lot by my family, I get what I want and when I want it. This
behavior rooted so much into me and made me aggressive at the time when I did
not get what I want. But, soon I realized that I don't always get what I want
and I have to learn to live with what I have gratefully. I lost people whom I
wanted to stay forever in my life, I lost so much of the time and money to
unfaithful people and business.
Loses are our
greatest teacher. Accepting the fact that you are not always going to get what
you want is the first step of mental freedom. Starting from the valueless
materialistic things to the valued time everything won't happen as we wish.
If you face a great
disappointment of not getting what you want, be honest with yourself on how you
feel. Please don't direct your disappointment to your parents or closed ones.
Just cry it out, scream, do whatever will satisfy your madness. And then let it
go.
Whenever you feel
disappointed, just sit down, take a paper and list down all the
things/people/whatever you already have. For example, You have lost your
partner whom you loved so much. He/she left you for lame reasons and you are
really devastated and disappointed about it. I know that breakups are really hard.
At this time of disappointment, all you have to do is think of your family and
friends whom you know will never leave you for anything. You know that they
will stand by you at all times and love you no matter how much mad you are
at them. Intimacy is secondary when Understanding is primary. You know that
your partner did not understand you and you also know that you have your family
and friends who understand you so much. You have more than you have lost.
How would you feel now? Grateful for
having them in your life. So, write it down, write how thankful you are for
having such relations in your life and heart.
Or just go and tell them a 'Thank You'. You don't know how good you are
going to feel afterward.
Just move on with
your life. A person who earns 1 lakh/month wants to earn 3lakh/month. A person
who is having one car needs another. Why is it so? Because that is how we are
programmed to think. We think about the Next and the Next and the Next and forget to live with the
present. I am not talking about spirituality or meditation here. You don't need
to be yogi to experience the present. I am just saying just be grateful and
move on with your life. It is natural that you will be attracted to somethings
and you will want them. It is totally fine. What is not ok is mourning over not
getting what you want. Learn to enjoy life the way it is. All the happiest
people on the earth have never said "I am happy because I am a
billionaire" or "I am happy because I have the latest phone". People who are genuinely happy are the ones who learned how to be content with
their life. When your expectations on life thin down, your happiness broadens.
Your life brightens.
Life is thrilling.
Life is satisfying. Life is unexpected. Life is disappointing. Life is full of
colors. Life id dull. Life can be all these. Just don't let disappointment dull
your sparkle. Keep enjoying life the way it is!
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