How the words you speak affect your life and wellbeing?

Words have the capability to build us or destroy us. You might have a basic conception that words are just used to communicate or to understand what the other one is saying.  But, words have more power than you can even imagine. They construct the world around you.

The Words that we speak are made up of vibrations and sounds. These vibrations, based on how they are (negative or positive) build the world around us. It constructs our reality.

Our subconscious mind is the reason for how we perceive reality. It handles 95% of our total life. And, the most fascinating thing about the subconscious mind when coming to words is that it does not process negative words. That is it does not differentiate "can't, not, don't, shouldn't" and those types of negative words. For example, if you are running late for a meeting and you say to yourself that "I won't be late hereafter", your subconscious mind will process it as "I will be late hereafter". See, this is crucial. You have to choose your words consciously so that you achieve what you are set to achieve.

1. Observe how you are speaking

The first step to change the way you speak is to understand what you are speaking. Most of us always complain about our life. We always mourn what we don't have. We live a life full of stress. Even though, we are well and capable than most of the world, we speak words that degrade our level.

"My life is a mess", "I cannot do this", "I don't want to be hurt". You see all these are creating a scene inside your mind. These words instruct your mind to do what you don't want to do. This is the reason why toddlers do the same thing that we say not to do. Their mind did not know to differentiate between "do" and "don't".

Observe what words you are using. How you are describing your reality. When you say out bad things about your life to others, it means that you are also asking them to think that your life is miserable. As a result, all the collective negative vibrations on your life, your life will become really bad as you spoke.

2. Change the pattern of your words

Now, once you have observed how hard your words are affecting you, you have to start to change the pattern of the words you use. Remember, there is always a positive and a negative pattern of a sentence. Consciously choose the positive sentence. For example "I will not miss my bus from tomorrow" is a negative pattern of a sentence. You can reverse this into a positive pattern by saying "I will be early to catch the bus from tomorrow onwards". See, it is a very fragile change to the way you speak and use your words but it has a profound effect on your life. So choose your words wisely. It might be quite a task at the start, but you will get used to it once you practice it consistently.

3. The power of "I am"

"I am" is probably the most powerful words of the entire vocabulary you know. These two words carry significant importance. Affirm who you are, what you want to be, your dreams with these words "I am" and watch for the magic to happen.

"I am" is so important that whatever you suffix it with becomes a reality even if it is not what you want. "I am lazy/fat/ugly/unwanted" will have so intense effect on your mental state. "I am happy/successful/grateful" will also have a broad effect on your life.

When you have a choice to choose what you want consciously, please do make use of it wisely. Let's choose the higher expression of every sentence we speak.

4. Conquer your fear

Most often, all the negative words we speak about ourselves and our life is simply a manifestation of fear. Fear is a dangerous threat to our life. It shakes the foundation of our goals and leaves us unarmed to protect ourselves.

Next time you open your mouth to complain or put yourself or others down, ask yourself:

1. ‘Why am I about to say this?’
2. ‘How is this going to serve me or my happiness?’

Ask yourself these two important questions and you will no doubt discover that you are in fact speaking out of fear. This is the fear that you are not good enough, fear that you are in the wrong relationship, the wrong career, etc. Most importantly of all, you will realize that by voicing these fears you will be doing nothing for your happiness. Your words can only make you feel worse, manifesting these fears into your life with greater intensity.

So choose your words bravely, consciously and lovingly. Always speak from a place of love; for yourself, for your life and for others. Your words equal your world, so use them wisely.