"Life is unfair
to me" is the most used sentence whenever we face setbacks in our life. We
feel that life is unfair because life pulls us down and drains us in the
dungeon. It also lifts up leaving us floating on cloud nine.
Life is
unpredictable. We say "life is unfair" because we try to interpret
the predictability of life. We plan things and want life to follow the path we
have paved. But unfortunately, life does not work that way. It has its own way and it will drag you in its path no
matter how planned you are.
Life is a mixture of
happiness and sadness, success and failure, ups, and downs. Life is about
balancing these two poles. Once you learn how to handle these extremely
different situations in life then you will seldom feel "life is
unfair".
1. Live in the "Now"
Live in the now does
not mean that you should meditate. Meditation is not the only "living in
the now". You should focus on the present. Sometimes, we feel life is not
going in the course we want it to. Therefore, we start imagining all the negative
"what if's" and feel overwhelmed about that.
Remember, that your
future exists only in your mind. You only have control over your present situation. No
matter whatever you think of the future, it only lives in your imagination. So, it
is better to be in control of the situation you are living in the present.
Instead of feeling
overwhelmed by the future. Just focus on what's on your hand. No matter what,
you will always be able to control the present.
Most of the unfair
situations are created inside our heads. If you clear your head then
automatically your life will fall into its place. You will not feel overwhelmed
over your life.
2. Gratitude
The power of
gratitude cannot be articulated with just words, it should be experienced and
lived. I always promote gratitude because the power that lies within it is
tremendous.
Gratitude is the act
of being content and thankful for all the things that is in your life. Life is
unfair to you because you fail to appreciate the tiny little happiness that
life gives you every day. You want more and more. In the process of wanting more,
you forget to be grateful for what you already have.
Before demanding
more from life, learn to appreciate the things that it has already provided to
you in abundance. You will never feel life is unfair if you practice gratitude
daily.
3. Acceptance
Acceptance is also
one of the major attributes you need to be calm in the chaos. Life is never
unfair, life is just unpredictable. Anything can happen anytime and we have no
or less control over situations. For example, no one expected this coronavirus
outbreak. We all had so many plans about the year 2020, but all went vain. What
can we do about this situation? Do any of us possess a weird power that will
help in eradicating the virus? Or do we even have the medicine to cure it in a
day? I guess the answer is no.
Therefore, it is not
okay to say "Life is unfair", it is just that "Life is
unpredictable".
It is wise to accept
the situation and have control over the things that we have control over. You
cannot control someone from going out but you can control yourself from going
out. You can take care of your family. You can try and be more immune and healthy.
To be all this, you need acceptance over the situation. Acceptance is the first
step toward peace.
And remember, Life
is beautiful. Search for beauty, then life will throw parties. Search for
miseries, life will give you the best possible heartbreak. Life gives out only
what you ask for. So, ask wise and be grateful!
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