We have all been at
a stage in life where we just felt like giving up and sinking down in the
couch. In my past, I was a pro in giving up. I will start something with utmost
enthusiasm but will tend to give up on that really soon. It was mostly because,
I was lazy or I did not really like what I am doing.
But, later on, I
discovered that I was giving up mostly because I did not have a direction. I
was always deviating from my purpose. I wish I had someone to tell me this
earlier.
Below are the 5
things that will help you when you feel like giving up.
1. Go back to 'Why?'
I give up because I
would have lost the purpose. Most of us tend to initiate a goal, relationship
or something with a pure intention in our mind. However, when days go by we
forget the true purpose of the goal and just follow it just for the sake of
doing it.
This will create a
void in our motivation to achieve the goal. So, whenever you feel like giving
up on something then just revisit your goal and ask yourself "Why did I
want to achieve this goal?". This question will give you a sense of
clarity and will bring you back to the real purpose of the goal.
If you still have
that purpose in your heart and head, then you will most probably hinge onto
your goal and continue working on it.
(Note: in this
case, it can not only be a goal. It can also be a relationship, personal and
professional achievements)
2. What would happen if you kept going?
I am going to bring
back the power of journaling.
If you are not a
journal person then at least use a paper and pen or any electronic device to
write down what would really happen if you kept going?
I am asking you to
write it down because writing helps you organize your thoughts. Your thoughts
are tangled and chaotic, sometimes you will be so confused and overthink to an
extent of quitting. So, it is always better to write it down and analyze them.
We lose motivation
because we are more inclined towards the short term satisfaction than the long
term achievement. If you ask this question and write down a detailed answer, it
will give you a picture of your future
self once you have achieved that goal.
This will also give
you a chance to tear through the future. You can find if you will be happy
after attaining your desired outcome or will you be sad and unfulfilled.
3. Why would you want to give up?
Giving up sometimes
will seem senseless. We tend to give up mostly because of the lack of
motivation.
Before giving up
evaluate why you actually wanted to give up. Is it because you are lazy? Are
you afraid to continue? Do you feel that the goal is meaningless?
List down all the
reasons you give yourself to give up. Now analyze them and put 'V' for Valid
and 'I' for invalid. Valid stands for valid reasons like the lack of resources
or you feel that the goal will make no change, etc. Invalid stands for Invalid
reasons like lack of motivation, etc. If you feel that you will not do the
analysis correctly then give it to a trusted friend or colleague to do it for
you.
After analyzing, see
if your reasons are valid. If it is valid then stop working on that goal. If
you push further when you have valid reasons then you will become more stressed
out.
If you have invalid
reasons then work on the reasons firs before working on the goal.
4. Rest, don’t quit
When feeling like
giving up, don’t be hard o yourself. Sometimes, you just need to rest and
rejuvenate.
Don’t quit. Just
take rest, go for a vacation, and then come back and start over. Our mind and
body is not a robot to work 24/7. So give yourself the rest you deserve.
5. Evaluate your feelings
According to me, the
first and foremost thing to consider when achieving a goal or anything is the
feeling towards it. I have learned that feeling plays a major role in achieving
something.
Always ask yourself
how you are feeling towards that goal. Are you satisfied and happy? Or are you
pursuing that goal with no enthusiasm? Who has control over your goal? Is
it you or others.
Any goal you set in
your life be it personal or professional should only enhance your quality of
life. If it is not doing that then please don’t waste your time and energy on
it.
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