Self-Care With Shaki

Do you ever feel like you got nothing out of school or college? You might have taken various levels of examination and invested hours of learning but still do you think that much of what you learned was not useful in actual situations? Research confirms the fact that much of what we study does not actually transfer to the situations we need it. In one study, Psychologist Howard Gardner says that “students who receive honor grades in college-level physics courses are frequently unable to solve basic problems and questions encountered in a form slightly different from that on which they have been formally instructed and tested.” All these facts confirm that we get very little out of school or college academics. Why is that we are not able to build a skill out of what we study in schools and colleges for numerous years? Should we blame the structure of our schools and colleges? Maybe yes or maybe not.   But also our own learning efforts play a greater role in deve

Emotional intelligence(EI) is a term that is used to measure our ability to manage our own emotions, as well as the emotions of others. Having a good EI indicates that you live a happy and stress-free life. EI can influence our personal and professional life's to a great extent. Having the ability to understand and manage our own emotions can be a great aid in accelerating success in every area of our life. Emotional intelligence Quotient (EQ) is as important or even more important than the Intelligent quotient (IQ). Unfortunately, we are only trained to improve our IQ but not our EQ. Of course, having a good IQ will help you land up in a good job and make a decent living. But, I am not sure if it will guarantee you a happy life. There are millionaires and billionaires out there with lavish money and zero happiness. Ultimately, we need happiness and peace over anything else. It is undeniable that one needs to have a good EQ to live a happy, peaceful, and contented life.

Often we talk about being productive and working hard. But, are we really productive? How do we know that we are being productive? It is crucial to know how to measure productivity in order to keep a track of our own work and to eliminate toxic productivity. The point of measuring productivity is to be able to make adjustments. Therefore, it should be easy to measure and timely enough to give us proper feedback. 1. Monitor time management A bad time management is the number one reason to kill productivity. The time you spend browsing the internet, scrolling on social media, and playing games are indications of lower productivity. Therefore it is good to track the time you use your phone. There are several apps that help you in monitoring the time you spend on your phone. The increase in the usage of the phone indicates a decrease in your productivity and vice versa. 2. Using rating scale This is also a very simple yet effective method to monitor your produc

Negative thinking creates an unfair environment. It contributes to depression, anxiety, and other mental and physical health issues. Our thoughts are very subtle and unconscious most of the time yet it has an extreme power to control our whole life. Since our thoughts make and break us, it is important to understand and learn how to think in the right way to be happy and peaceful in life. Below are the 5 tips that you can inculcate to change your negative thought pattern: 1. Identifying your thinking pattern The first step to change your negative thinking is to identify your thinking pattern. For example, if you tend to view yourself as a total failure because of failing in one single interview then you are "overgeneralizing" yourself. Or, if you are someone who thinks that 'Success only lies in perfection. And the rest is considered as a failure' then you are thinking in terms of "black and white". In the same way, there are many t

Sometimes we all get overwhelmed by the immense amount of things that we are said that we should be doing to live an ideal lifestyle. Right from waking up early in the morning, exercising regularly, reading more, eating right, meditating often, and whatnot. Living well may sound exhausting. Just thinking about a long to-do will itself drain your energy. Productivity guilt happens when you feel overwhelmed by all the things that you "should" be doing. However, you don’t do them.   But still, you have that nagging feeling like you are wasting your time. Sometimes, a lot of advice on how to live well seems like a burden. If living well is actually exhausting, what should you do now? Should you just ignore all the advice of the overachievers or should you beat yourself up for not being productive? First, you have to understand that you cannot do everything that you should do or even want to do. Unfortunately, we live in a world of finite time. Squeezing everythin

Our whole day can be chunked into tasks. And the depth of the day is dependent on the way we accomplish these tasks. If the tasks are not completed then your day might be dull, whereas when you get all the tasks done you might feel a sense of fulfillment. Therefore, accomplishing a task has great importance than you can imagine. Below are the five tips that can help you to accomplish any given task: 1. Prior planning Planning is required before you leap into the task and start working on it right away. Planning will give you an overview of the tasks and will also give an avenue to the flow of the task in hand. It will also indicate the resources needed for the task and the appropriate time that is required to complete the task. Prior planning is very essential before you take in any major task. 2. Set aside a particular time Everyone has their own "focus-time". That is, some people work efficiently at the early hours of the day whereas some are night