Self-Care With Shaki

Nowadays, divorce rates have drastically increased, especially in India. If two people don’t cope up with each other, the immediate decision they take is divorce.   The saddest part is, most divorces happen after they become parents. The only person who is most affected by the imbalanced and chaotic condition of the household is the child.   If people possess a growth-minded way to handle things in relationships, it will never end up in divorce.    Work on your relationship Some people believe that, if they have to put in the effort to maintain a relationship it means it is not meant to be. They imagine that all good relationships should happen by itself without any effort. This is how a fixed mindset thinks of a relationship. On the other hand, people who approach relationships with a growth mindset never sit ideally and wish some magic to happen. They put in the efforts needed. They value the relationship more than their indiffe...

Clarity in mind means peace in life. Our unconscious mind loves clarity and it works better in clear situations. Most of us are clouded by our thoughts, distracted by social media, depressed by our environment that makes the situation of our mind worse. If you religiously follow the below simple steps, you can step into a more clear version of your reality. 1. Sleep Sleep calms the chaos in our thoughts. Every person process millions of thoughts per second. All these thoughts come to rest only when you are asleep. It is important to have at least 8 hours of proper sleep.   Good sleep improves your mood and you will be all set with a new clarity to start your day. 2. Brain dump This is one of the most important ways to calm your thoughts. Take a journal, and write down whatever pops up in your head for the next 10 mins. You can write anything you want. If you don’t know what to write, then write 'I don't know what to write'. It...

Self-confidence is like salt in our food. Without salt, the food does not taste good no matter how much ever ingredients you have in it. In the same way, you cannot call your life happy and successful without self-confidence in it. It is the most important ingredient needed in your life. Self-confidence will push you out of your comfort zones. It will help you try the impossible. Moreover, self-confidence will build your self-image. It will enhance the quality of the life you live in. While self-confidence might also help you remove your fears, it will also strengthen your success factor in life. Understand, self-confidence is about yourself. It is about how much you believe in you. Don't confuse self-esteem (whether you believe you are worthy of respect from others) and self-confidence (The belief you have in yourself) and get everything wrong. 1. Practice positive self-talk Never ever underestimate the power you have over you.     ...

Unlike my other blog posts that are about the tips and how-to's, this blog is going to be about me. I ventured to write this because I wanted to let people know that they are not alone in any of the pain that they are going through. This blog is going to be transparent and real. I am going to vent out what I have gone through and how I have overcome all life's tantrums. My journey is common. I am one among y'all. Only because I am a coach and do mental health posts it does not mean that I was born strong with vibrant emotions. I have gone through a lot of emotional troubles at the very early stages of my life. I did not know anything at that time. I badly wanted someone to love me and care for me. I see all my friends with their colorful life and cute partners living their best life ( At least I thought so). I was always a third wheel or someone who often went unnoticed. I gave it all to my friends just to be recognized. I just used to go behind people pleading...

Each and every decision we make contributes to our lives in one way or another. The life we live in now is the result of a series of decisions we have taken. From, what to pursue as a career, the partner with who you are going to spend half of your life, the money you spend, everything is a decision. Decision making is powerful and most of us don't make use of this power in the right way. One bad decision and BOOM your life is ruined. Imagine marrying someone you are not into for the sake of society. Your life is ruined. Therefore, decisions hold a very important part of our life that most of us fail to appreciate. Also, most of us are impulsive decision-makers, we just make the decision based on the situation. But, what we forget is that we always have a choice. A choice to choose what we want. Again, when it comes to decision making we are not even sure of what we want. To help you deal with the pressure of decision making and to make it more efficient, there is a ...

Fear is confusing. It sometimes saves us while most of the time it dumps us. When you are in a life-threatening situation, it is the feeling of fear that creates adrenaline and also instructs your brain to pump more oxygen to save your life. But this is only in life-threatening times. What if you are scared to face the public? What if you fear failure and give up? Then here comes the part where you really need  to face your fears and conquer it in a non-traumatizing manner. Our minds are habitual creatures. It loves routine. So when you do something out of the routine it fears the change. It creates an adrenaline rush and will stop you from breaking your routine cycle, even to add something that supports your goal. Fear is dangerous for success. Having some amount of fear is ok, what is not ok is to be feared all the time and leave opportunities fade in front of your eyes. Don’t fear about what you can't control Most of us are prone to overthinking. Overthinking ...

Words have the capability to build us or destroy us. You might have a basic conception that words are just used to communicate or to understand what the other one is saying.  But, words have more power than you can even imagine. They construct the world around you. The Words that we speak are made up of vibrations and sounds. These vibrations, based on how they are (negative or positive) build the world around us. It constructs our reality. Our subconscious mind is the reason for how we perceive reality. It handles 95% of our total life. And, the most fascinating thing about the subconscious mind when coming to words is that it does not process negative words. That is it does not differentiate "can't, not, don't, shouldn't" and those types of negative words. For example, if you are running late for a meeting and you say to yourself that "I won't be late hereafter", your subconscious mind will process it as "I will be late here...