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10 Useful tips to become a good listener!



One essential skill that everyone needs to develop is good listening skills. Being a good listener will help you view the world through the other person's eyes. You will be able to develop empathy and maintain serenity once you start listening to what others say.

I used to be someone who was very impulsive to interrupt someone while they are talking and give my opinion right away. This habit made the speaker uncomfortable and stop abruptly without completing their sentence.

After realizing that I have been doing a mistake, I started developing good listening skills. After becoming an efficient listener, I understood that I was missing out a lot of information by not lending my ears properly.

Most of us tend to daydream instead of listening. Instead of zoning out all the time, let's try to focus on the speaker. I think it will make more sense once we tune up our listening skills and start listening to the one who is putting effort to speak to us.

1. You win by listening

Most of us think that listening to someone speak will not bring us any benefits. But the reality is that the more you listen to others, the more others will listen to you.

The key part of any relationship or work is communication. To build an effective personal or professional relationship you need strong listening skills.

Therefore, in this case, you are not only listening to the other person but also building meaningful relationships which act as a win-win situation for both the speaker and the listener.



2. Eye contact

Eye contact will act as direct feedback to the speaker. The person who is speaking can figure out if you are listening or not by your eye contact.

So, always try to maintain direct and smooth eye contact with the person you are speaking to.

3. Sympathize

It is not feasible t only look at the other person speaking. If you have a blank and expressionless face then it will be obvious that you are not listening.

So, always nod your head in case of agreement. And add "yeah'" and "yes" in between the conversation. Also, show some expression in your face in case of excitement, appreciation, or disappointment.



4. Do not interrupt

Keep in mind that when you interrupt someone while they are taking then that will result in a broken communication. As said earlier, communication is the key to professional or personal development. With a broken communication it is pretty hard to move ahead in that conversation. So make sure that you are not interrupting anyone while they are speaking. Only speak once they are done.

5. Do not mind read

If you have some disagreements in the conversation, then please do not mind read and assume something. Always, be ready to ask questions. Asking meaningful questions is one of the right ways to get deeper into the conversation. Also, you will understand more about the context of the conversation.

Questioning will also reduce the conflicts that arise due to mere assumptions. It will clear the clouds of doubt and showcase the bright sky.


6. Do not use gadgets

Avoid the usage of gadgets when someone is speaking to you. This will make you lose some parts of the information they are sharing. You will only process the information you heard and the whole context of the communication might get collapsed. Always have your complete focus on the speaker to get all the benefits from the communication.

7. Put yourself in their perspective

When someone is speaking to you, try and put yourself into their shoes and think in terms of the opposite person. Avoid comparing your point of view and their point of view. When you understand their perspective it will be much easier for you to continue with the conversation in a flawless manner.



8. Summarize

Develop the habit of summarizing what the other person said once they are done speaking. This will give them the idea that you are listening to. Summarizing will also assure that you have understood them in rightly. Understand that the need to be a good listener is to develop good relationships in every way. Therefore make sure that you have a clear understanding of everything that they have said.

9. Listen to learn

Most of us listen to the other person, to answer. If you focus on answering or thinking about what you are going to say next, then you will miss what the speaker is speaking.

Hence, listen to learn, not to answer.



10. Know what not to do

  • Do not interrupt while the person is talking
  • Do not arrogantly interrogate the other person. You should only calmly question them.
  • Do not try to change the subject even if it feels a bit uncomfortable
  • Do not jump in and try to solve the other person's problem. Most of the time, people will just want you to listen to them.


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